This Is How Many People You Should Sleep With Before You Die

The magic number

When it comes to something as personal and subjective as your number of previous partners, surely there couldn't be one number that applies to all of us? WRONG, according to a study which has put an exact number on how many trysts we should be amounting. (A pox on you if you don't match this number.)

The research comes from trusted source Illicit Encounters, a dating site for married people which found that the ideal number of sexual partners in a life-time is twelve.

The research found 40% of men and 49% of women thought that between 10 and 14 partners is best, with 12 being "perfect."

Apparently this random number which signifies nothing apart from the gap between 11 and 13 actually means someone is "sexually adventurous, liberal and transient", according to a majority of both men and women surveyed.

It's bad news if you are one of the many many numbers above or below twelve as, "70 per cent of men and 66 per cent of women say having less than 10 partners indicates "sexual inexperience and a lack of adventure in the bedroom". Having more than 19 indicates "someone is too eager to jump from partner to partner, or simply too selfish and very difficult to please.'"

A spokesperson for the illicit affairs site Christian Grant, commented: "We are more liberal, tolerant and sexually adventurous than we've ever been, so the numbers game matters. A good sexual connection is the cornerstone of any solid relationship, so someone who is lacking in sexual experience, is a little too conservative between the sheets, or both, is a legitimate cause for concern for some people."

So now you know.

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* Minor edits have been made by the editors.

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