Hey, 'Overdating' Could Be Ruining Your Love Life
get through a lot of the wrong people before you meet the right one, right? Guys?
Well, apparently not according to a dating expert who has warned that overdating might prevent you from finding love.
Mel Schilling, psychologist and consultant for eHarmony and dating show Married At First Site, has warned that the rise of dating apps, which puts hundreds of potential partners at our fingertips and makes arranging dates easy, might not be all good news.
“I find that sometimes people who are 'overdating' are trying to hide from something.It can be a great distraction from everyday life. So maybe if you notice yourself doing this, take a little time out, reflect, and really think about what it is you want,” she told 9Honey.
She advises treating dating apps as a 'social experiment' and using them to explore what you're looking for in a partner to get an idea of what you want from a relationship
“Disposable dating can be very confusing, and in fact, can close you off to opportunities for longer-term relationships," she said, recommending not giving up too much energy into multiple short-term flings but instead try to make "the space for a new relationship".
Unless you're into the emotional rollercoaster of dating five people at once, in which case, carry on as you were.
This story originally appeared on Esquire.co.uk.
* Minor edits have been made by the Esquiremag.ph editors.