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How to Keep Your Cool When People Publicly Hate You

Or, rather, how to troll with the homies by Carlos Celdran
IMAGE Romain Rivierre
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This article originally appeared in the August 2016 issue of Esquire Philippines.

I’m probably the most hated online personality to date.

It started with the super-riveting Philippine elections in 2016, after I coined the word “Dutertard” to describe the “lazy” and “delusional” followers of our then-recently elected president; and it’s safe to say 16 million people aren’t throwing any love my way. But it’s cool. I realize that if one lives by social media, one can die by social media. Or at the very least, receive four death threats a day on the average. So Esquire asks: What do you when the world turns on you? It’s simple: You turn around, tune out, and remember the following:

When confronted with insults and invectives as “bayaran,” “bayot,” “elitista,” and the ever-so-subtle, “sana ma-rape ka ng adik,” I remind myself that these are merely words.

A| It’s all an illusion.

It’s all veils of Maya. The Internet isn’t reality—it’s perception. Facebook is a medium, not the message. When confronted with insults and invectives as “bayaran,” “bayot,” “elitista,” and the ever-so-subtle, “sana ma-rape ka ng adik,” I remind myself that these are merely words, and not yet (hopefully never) tangible acts. Social media is devoid of personal interaction, and this breeds trolls— and for some real people, a sense of infallibility. Cyberspace is their safe space; it gives them the courage to say things they could never do in real life. And since these people think of themselves as non-entities through the facade of Facebook anonymity, I really can’t take them personally.

B| It’s all about love.

It is said that hate is a form of love. Creating a meme of yours truly giving Mar Roxas a blowjob as he’s buggered by Noy Aquino isn’t an easy task. The “hater” has to go online, log on to a search engine, find a picture of me (one with my mouth open at that), one of Mar Roxas, and one of Noy Aquino. After that, they must leaf through page upon page of gay porn until they find an image that would suit their idea. Finally, the hater has to download the images, do some Photoshop magic to it, add a suitable copy point, and then send it out via the comments section of my public page. The process surely takes more than 20 minutes, which is a lot of their personal, precious, time and effort to be spent on me. That’s obsession. That’s sad. But I guess it’s also love? And for that I am grateful.

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C| It’s all about charity.

I suspect the average Filipino to fall in the demographic of 25 to 55, pale from the lack of sunlight, unhappy, alone, and with way too much time on their hands, maybe unemployed, or perhaps employed but never doing their work. All trolls want is attention, so why not give it to them? When I offer replies such as: “e di wow” or “#changeiscomingmypwet,” I validate that troll’s existence. That short reply helps them feel alive, and that their ideas (however lame as they may be), now exists in real time and real space. A spark of joy is ignited; a give goes forward. And the satisfaction is instantaneous. So if you want to give to the less fortunate, reply to a troll. It’s almost like donating money to a church. The gratification is real. Kinda.

Filipinos are forgetful. We have the collective attention span of a newborn kitten. We forget. Period.

D| It’s all about living in the present.

The only thing that’s constant in this world is change. Viral controversies don’t last long. Remember the Hayden Kho scandal? Remember the “amalayer” girl? Although I may not have to drop my trousers or chew out a poor security guard to become a national obsession, the fact that I had to remind you only proves my point: Filipinos are forgetful. We have the collective attention span of a newborn kitten. We forget. Period. Forgiveness isn’t even part of the equation. The past is done, the future hasn’t happened yet, so there’s only now. And for now, they must troll. It’s the natural order of things and I accept it.

E| It’s all about freedom.

Although it’s not fun reading page upon page of hate, I cannot, and will not let online aggression silence me. My opinion differs from that of 16 million people, but it’s my opposing view that makes a democracy work. To have an opposing opinion is a human right; it’s everyone’s duty to speak up when one sees something wrong. If you choose to be silent about abuses or transgressions, then you become complicit, and the bad people win. I truly believe that freedom of speech is absolute, and it is under threat because people are now choosing to be silent for fear of trolling and bullying. Which is wrong. If a society believes that leaders should be followed without question, then that society does not know how freedom works, nor do they deserve it. So troll away, everyone. And live to troll another day.

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Carlos Celdran
Carlos Celdran's performances and opinions have cut through the fabric of Filipino society by questioning it with a razor and a sign. He is most known for his Intramuros tours that journey people back in history and time, showing what was once lost and forgotten in a new modern, and sometimes harsh light of day.
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